It’s never too early or late to attend marriage counselling?

It's never too early or late to attend marriage counselling

Loving relationships don’t just happen overnight. They don’t fail overnight either. Knowing when relationship troubles would best be handled with outside help isn’t easy to decide, but the sooner you seek help – the better. Whether you’ve been together for three months, two years or 20 years, problems affect everyone, and while they may be minor, often it is hard to pinpoint what the issues in your relationship are without an expert’s help.

A counselor can help sort through what is occurring before issues are suppressed which can ultimately leave anyone flustered or uneasy. Concerns such as low intimacy, name calling when arguing, vying for attention above the children, feeling under appreciated or taken advantage of, having to work long hours and not seeing each other often enough, lack of trust or fear of secrecy can develop rifts that a trained counselor can assist you in working through to come to an understanding and reconciliation. If you don’t know or are unsure of where the issues in your relationship are coming from or if there are even issues a good question to ask yourself is if you are happy with your partner. Be honest with yourself, if you can. If the answer is, ‘no,’ then professional guidance can help you understand where these feelings are coming from. If it’s, ‘yes,’ and there are still problems, a counselor can also help find what is troubling your partnership.

It’s important to remember that communication is the sign of a healthy relationship, but it may not be that there is an issue with your loved one, it may be that you need to learn to communicate better. Better communication skills can be learnt. There is often a lot of stigma attached to counseling, but the truth is asking for help is a positive and courageous step. A marriage, in particular, is something we enter into with the greatest of hopes and shouldn’t just be given up on. Some people may find talking to a stranger about what they feel to be unusual, even difficult, but a relationship counselor is a trained professional who will handle your case with privacy, candor and sensitivity. Seeking help can make a difference. It is an important step in creating a fulfilling and healthy relationship that will endure the years or your lives.

A counselor can help sort through what is occurring before issues are suppressed which can ultimately leave anyone flustered or uneasy. Concerns such as low intimacy, name calling when arguing, vying for attention above the children, feeling under appreciated or taken advantage of, having to work long hours and not seeing each other often enough, lack of trust or fear of secrecy can develop rifts that a trained counselor can assist you in working through to come to an understanding and reconciliation. If you don’t know or are unsure of where the issues in your relationship are coming from or if there are even issues a good question to ask yourself is if you are happy with your partner. Be honest with yourself, if you can. If the answer is, ‘no,’ then professional guidance can help you understand where these feelings are coming from. If it’s, ‘yes,’ and there are still problems, a counselor can also help find what is troubling your partnership.

It’s important to remember that communication is the sign of a healthy relationship, but it may not be that there is an issue with your loved one, it may be that you need to learn to communicate better. Better communication skills can be learnt. There is often a lot of stigma attached to counseling, but the truth is asking for help is a positive and courageous step. A marriage, in particular, is something we enter into with the greatest of hopes and shouldn’t just be given up on. Some people may find talking to a stranger about what they feel to be unusual, even difficult, but a relationship counselor is a trained professional who will handle your case with privacy, candor and sensitivity. Seeking help can make a difference. It is an important step in creating a fulfilling and healthy relationship that will endure the years or your lives.